Sunday, 4 February 2018
"There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved".
Life has shown time and again that love is the unifier. Times have shown over and over that love is the decider. History have proven that love is the core. You cannot beat it because it is the essence of life. It remains a culture and an infallible trait to human existence. We are all wired to love and be loved. Martin Luther King Jr said "Love is the only force capable of turning an enemy into a friend". We are love-made.
The display of love transcends rules and bypasses protocols. I remember scenes where love rewrote the narrative and reared its head in spite of stringent setting. The typical 'Jack and Rose story' of Titanic shows how strong a love cord is. Similarly, the potency of a Confessor and the destiny of the Seeker can be compromised if love cames in-between them. Pardon my love for movies, Scriptures also record the strength of love - remember the sacrifice of Jacob for Rachael.
My emphasis today is to reiterate the fact that you can write your own love story. You are equipped to have a model love life. The movies have done theirs, do yours bit with a better understanding of Love. Some believe they aren't enabled to have an exceptional love life as seen in the lives of others who make headlines of long blissful love and marriage.. I indulge you to bury that thought. You are one of a kind. None has been like you on this planet and none can exactly mimic your makeup. You are here to fulfill purpose; don't accept anything less. Internalise the 3 guides below and gain ascendency in the display of your love.
1) You are complete in Christ:
There is nothing more you need to do to live out this truth. Only believe God's Word and live by it. The Scripture pens, and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. You have been anointed to fullness and for your cup to overflow; allow this to settle in your spirit. You have what it takes to be lively, sociable and funny. You have what it takes to to be what you want and whom you choose to attract. You have what it takes to make a difference in the life of someone you love. You are complete.
2) Learn from Him:
Jesus Christ perfectly personifies love. His life was an array and a wholesome embodiment of love. He was a delight to behold, a helper, a friend and a Saviour. His coming and works were outbursts of his love for man. Ranging from washing his disciples feet (Jn 13:3-5), through to his many miracles (Jn 11:36;43, Mat 14:16) and his death on the cross (Mat 27:45-50), love informed them. We learn compassion, concern and care from Jesus. Emulate these sacrificial ideals.
3) Grow in love:
Growth is a characteristic of life. Anything that fails to grow will eventually die. Strengthen your love for God and others by exposing yourself to knowledge (Prov 24:3) and basking in grace (2 Tim 2:1). These are the amplifiers. Make it your priority to enrich your knowledge bank in as many ways possible. Ensure you also maximise the grace availed to you by being strong in faith, being in fellowship one with another and striving to express this love life. When you strive to be your best, you will be the best. Cheers!
Monday, 22 January 2018
It's been quite some time since i wrote on the major reason why I started writing about Love and relationships few years back. I have been so consumed with the urge to spread the fragrance of God's ideal to the world on how they can truly love and enjoy life from the ones they love which has been the product of that major reason but then, I was reminded recently of reaching out to let you all know the importance of living a life filled with Love on purpose.
Having watched a short teaching by Joyce Meyer were she asked, "what would change in your life if you knew Jesus was coming back today "?
She continued by admonishing that we all should live with purpose which will help us get our priorities right and wait for Christ's Return.
Like wise, I admonish us today that we should love on purpose everyone that we come across for it is written in Roman's 13: 8 & 10
"Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.
Yes I know sometimes we might get discouraged showing love to people who do not appreciate it or who do not even deserve it by the way they react, behave or respond but I tell you when you decide to walk the Love walk, you put God in action in every situation of your life because God is Love( 1John 4: 7-8) and also remember that that's the only thing we owe each and everyone.
I urge you even as i remind myself to give it some deep thought today and decide to love straight from your heart. Whatever it is that you choose to do to others, let it be love from your heart that motivates you,It will change your life for good.
Love is the Greatest.
Tuesday, 9 January 2018
Over the years, I've seen people, youths and young adults especially indulge in Immoral acts under the name "Love".
And that brought me to think, What exactly is Love?
If Love simply means that two persons must date,kiss, and have sex before marriage, then what is the term for those who never did all these but eventually got married?
Does it mean they don't truly love each other?
That sparked my interest in understanding Love and what it really is and of course getting the message out there of the Truth.
Remember, "the Truth will make you free"
Love is not Fondness.
Yes, you heard that right.
Truth is, you could get really fond of a person and feel that you cannot survive without the person. In fact, when you try a temporary separation, you feel a sort of emptiness. But when properly checked, there is no love therein.
I can guess your next question already, "How do you then know it's love?" Well, stay with me.
Love is not based entirely on Feelings.
Yes, this is similar to Fondness above.
But I've seen people who claim they have lots of feelings for a person and the feelings were mutual. So they both are in love.
Identify what generated those feelings?
Was it the looks, achievement, position, charisma,voice? etc
Note this, you cannot determine love entirely by physical appearances or how a person makes you feel. Those could be faked. One could get manipulated and made to believe a lie and at the end of the experience "Heartbreaks" in the name of "I thought he/she loved me"...
Well, that is it...
However, I'll show you how you to identify True Love.
First, There is no Fear/Doubt in Love.
1John 4:18 explains it all, "There is no fear in Love, but perfect love casteth out fear...He that feareth is not made perfect in Love"
Here, it is obvious that when you have doubts or you are afraid of a person or there's an unrest within your spirit despite the "feelings" you claim to have, That isn't love.
And for you to truly find out, you'll have to be sincere with yourself.
"Am I really sure that this is the right thing?"
If you still experience doubts and fear in you, Watch it! You need to Cut it!
"There is no fear in Love"
Secondly, "Love covers all sins".
Yes, Love overlooks wrongs, faults and imperfections.
That doesn't mean that it is blind to it, but instead, it sees perfection in the imperfect being.
In fact, it seeks to fill the gap in the person's life by covering it up.
I've seen cases where one party is been punished for certain wrongs committed, but instead chooses to remain in that bondage because of "love".
That isn't what I mean, Love "covers" up your faults. It doesn't expand your faults even more. It makes you a better person.
Thirdly, Love is Demonstrated.
Now, don't be so quick to tell me.
"Yea, he takes me out and buys me stuffs" or "she calls me late at night and professes love"
Well, that's not the demonstration I mean here.
John 3:16 is a perfect example of Demonstrated Love.
"For God so loved the world that He gave.."
If there's giving with selfish motives or expecting in return, it can't be Love.
1Corinthians 13:4-8 explains the demonstrations of Love.
It is Patient, Kind, Understanding, Not Proud, Not Selfish,Not easily Provoked, Lacks Envy,Doesn't Torment, Doesn't Thinks or Rejoice in Evil.
Fourthly, Love is not imposed!
You don't love a person because you are forced to or out of pity.
Someone once said, "Love is a decision made from your heart, not based on the way someone makes you feel"
I choose to hammer on "The Decision"
You choose to Love, you should never be forced to, if you do, then that is in no way Love.
Finally, Love will wait!
Yes, Love doesn't entail having sex and indulging in sexual activities just anyhow or for the pleasure of it.
Hebrews 13:4 explains that "Marriage is honourable in all,and the bed undefiled..."
Sex is for marriage and not before or outside of it.
If a person who claims to love you demands for sex as proof of your love, Then FLEE!
That can never be Love. It is not a demonstration of Love.
"Is it possible to wait"? A thousand times YES!
I've seen countless persons got married as virgins who are enjoying the most of their marriage.
All you have to do is decide on it and go to the God of Love to strengthen you.
There is strength released when you make up your mind to wait.
It will keep you going in spite of the cries of your hormones, it will call you to order when you are about missing it.
But first, You must decide to wait and let God handle the rest.
Now that I've made you understand what Love really is. I would also like to add that Love is actually a Person. 1John 4:7 says,
"...God is Love.." so whatever doesn't exist in God can never be called "Love"
If you can live your life from today based on this revelation, you will experience peace in your relationships.
In conclusion, sweet words, feelings,attitudes, emotions and passions are only offshoots of something deeper in Love.
There is a depth to Love that until you get fully matured in it, you can not fully accept the reality of therein.
My point is, don't decide to get in a relationship in the name of "love" until you are certain in your heart that you are ready for marriage as well as know what that love entails.
It will save you lots of distractions, heartbreaks, emotional trauma and unnecessary pain.
Sunday, 31 December 2017
1 John 3:14 KJV
We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death.
I begin this write-up with broad smiles as I unreservedly thank God for our lives; considering His mercy and grace is more than enough reason to say "Thank you".
Today's post is born out of in-depth gratitude to God and taking a cue from His love, we have streams of love to flow by. The above verse describes the condition of man as death when he doesn't love another. This is not what anyone prays for but by denying others your love or feigning it; you are inadvertently living in death.
Love is indeed a common word and it must have been talked about if you recently heard a Christmas message. Love made God do what He did to save mankind from their sorry state (Jn 3:16). My emphasis is however how we can relate to this fountain of love and thereby illuminate our world with the very essence of it. Let me be quick to say "Love is denying self". That is a definition. Rick Warren penned "True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less".
I termed that definition some months ago as the golden definition of humility. This definition also goes same for love. Love is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. You cannot truly love if you won't deny self. Take some time to ponder on this truth and some light will beam into your heart. This made privileged Nehemiah leave the King's palace to go rebuild the ruins of Jerusalem and the city of Judah (Neh 2:5)
This post concludes on what the streams of love are but endeavour these conceptual dimensions of love sink in some more. Love is also an extension of care to others. Take it also as a definition and strive to apply henceforth. You cannot say you love without caring. Care is the proof of love. You must show you love by doing the needful to alleviate the pain, plight, pang, pressure and poverty of others. Love is not only in word but also in deed and truth(1 Jn 3:18). As we move into the New Year, as it is viral in the social media, somethings must not enter the New Year with you. Strive to communicate your love in the best possible way.
It is however crucial to note that you need to be regenerated to truly express love. If you haven't given your life to Jesus Christ, it is practically impossible to express these love streams. You have to first accept the love He brings, then you can learn and be led by the Holy Spirit to express love in blessed dimensions.
1 John 3:23 describes the command God gave us which is to believe in Jesus and to love one another. If you haven't answered the call of salvation, say "Lord Jesus, I believe you died for my sins, forgive all my sins and come into my life. I make you my Lord and Saviour".
If you have said that prayer, you are saved. Ensure you are rooted in a Bible based church and keep in touch with us. The second part of the command is to love one another, consider the love streams below:
1) Love compels you to seek reconciliation first.
2) Love maintains a talking relationship.
3) Love doesn't entertain grudges.
4) Love speaks the truth from the heart.
5) Love likes and maintains company.
6) Love always gives the best.
7) Love is aimed at resolving a conflict and not dissolving a relationship.
8) Love seeks the best in others.
9) Love works more with facts and not merely emotions.
10) Love always glues to wisdom.
Let your heart be filled with Love as you cross over to the new year.
Happy New Year with loads of Love.
Monday, 18 December 2017
Don’t you think that I could call on my Father, and he would send me more than twelve legions of angels now?
How, then, would the Scriptures be fulfilled that say this must happen?”
As Winston drove to the station, many thoughts flew in his head. He didn't know what to expect, he didn't know the condition of his wife. Could she have done something so terrible and was locked up in jail because he suspected that she was keeping some worthless friends from highschool who sometimes made her commit offences. He had warned her against keeping such friends but it fell on deaf ears. Could it be that she had killed someone? Winston didn't know what to expect. He knew his wife had been something else for the past couple of weeks and was ready for the worst.
Getting to the station, he quickly pulled over: packing his car in a hurry. There was no trace of his wife's car as he quickly glanced to check and then hurriedly entered the station. On getting to the reception he bent over the counter with a heavy breath as he was panting. "Good evening, I received a call 10minutes ago asking me to come see her as my wife has been arrested". He was interrupted by an officer who was just beside the reception table. "Sir, are you Mrs Betty's husband?" Winston quickly nodded in the affirmative. Officer Brad led him to his office and made Winston have a seat. "Sir, I am sorry to inform you that your wife was hit by a truck over an hour ago". He continued, "Two of her friends died on the spot but thanks to the truck driver who saw she was still alive and rushed her to the hospital. She is currently receiving treatment but is in a state of coma". As Winston heard those words, he knew he had to be strong and believed she would make it.
Officer Brad led Winston to the Hospital where his wife was attending to treatment. The Doctor who was just about to leave her bed after administering some injections and monitoring her vital signs saw Winston and presumed he was her husband. "Please doctor how is she? " Winston asked. He replied " Well, your wife is in a critical condition, thankfully she is responding and her vitals are fine for she is stable now but she would be bedridden for a couple of months as she's got an incomplete spinal cord fracture. We hope she would be able to walk again. She would need a miracle to make that happen". The doctor finished and excused himself.
I can imagine the thoughts that could be brimming up as you read Winston and Betty's story. Well, Winston was the miracle she needed as he stayed by her all through the time of her recovery not considering the wicked acts she had put forward to him before her accident for he had forgiven her. Helping her to walk again, showing her much love and affection than he had ever showed her, encouraging her to keep hope alive that she would walk again and all sorts marked his disposition. Indeed she walked again. Betty not only realised that her escaping death was not because of her but for the sake of her darling husband who had a heart of gold. She became remorseful for all the wrongs she had done to Winston and turned a new leaf.
Dear friends, true love isn't love that hasn't or won't be tried and tested. Love is meant to have such inconveniences. How do I know? Consider the opening verse; He surely had all the powers to call millions of angels to his rescue as He was about to be crucified but he chose not to, because He loved us so dear and needed to settle our redemption. He went through all the pain and shame of the cross just for our justification. Love was shouting out saying, "I rather die to have you than leave without you".
Your current situation might not be exactly like that of Winston and Betty; it might be a trying time in your marriage be it a misbehaving spouse, or having to have waited for long trying to have a baby, some terrible financial constraints, or seeing no reason to hang onto that marriage. No matter what the case might be, do not forget you chose to be with this person for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health for that's what true love really is.
Love doesn't give up when faced with dire challenges, it hangs on with hope and faith that any bad circumstance will get better. Love sees challenges as stepping stones. It doesn't just throw in the towel. Many of the stories of divorce and separation we hear of today won't have been if the parties involved had this understanding of the inconveniences of love. Unfortunately, no one wants to suffer for love's sake just like Jesus did. Perhaps you are not married yet, bear in mind that the path of true love is filled with ups and downs, so you better know what you are going for.
I leave you with these verses from the Holy Writ which summaries the inconveniences of love. You can always come back to read these words when faced with a challenging situation in your marriage. These words can transform and can change any one as long as they heed to it and see the power therein cause the change.
Love is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly.
Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].