LOVE'S IMPOSTER

"Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, an activity... Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom... Love has the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth... True love is an act of will that often transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis. It is correct to say, 'Love is as love does" - Scott Peck


1 Cor 13:4-7 (NASB)
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.


No doubt, the feelings of love can be so breathtaking, so overwhelming, so mind blowing that we tend to describe with it so many great words that could even make the blind see (lol). The feelings that love brings appeals so much to our five senses that when left to sum up, they become so strong that every one if not majority translate them to be equivalent to true love itself. The feeling that love brings parades itself as true love itself and a lot of persons are deceived into believing that it is so. Feelings do not tell us what kind of love it is we're having, that's because feelings are a result of some chemical reactions in our body which are short lived. It's important to know that a strong love will not necessarily show itself as a strong feeling and also, a superficial love may show itself as a strong feeling.

One thing is certain, true love when built up in the form of a commitment is more enduring and more powerful than any feeling of love we may have . Now here is the catch; just as feelings do not tell us what kind of love it is we're having (whether it's real or superficial), feelings of love do not also have the capacity to continually express genuine (true) love. It could try, as a matter of fact, but it's short lived and needs a more sure foundation if it has to continue. For instance, a guy has so much feelings for a girl which came as a result of the physical attributes she possesses and then says he has 'fallen in love'. Trust me when such feelings of love are gone, he would want to discontinue all that the feelings brought to him. Hence, the increase in the number of heart breaks, separations and divorces in our world today. To truly love someone is to make up your mind after a careful consideration and the application of wisdom, to stay committed to them. It is choosing to treat them dearly and specially. It's to see the ugly parts of someone and still remain unwaveringly committed to them. Oh yes, it's possible to convert the strong feelings of love that could have brought two persons together to a firm decision and a concrete commitment but until that is done one is only building castles in the air if they think their feelings are a steady platform for concluding they'd have a lasting relationship.

True love acts on what it knows to be good rather than on what it feels to be good. In true love, feelings of love are a by-product of a conscious understanding you've reached, not the raw material for the relationship. If you put feelings of love first, no matter how genuine you think your heart is you're only an imposter; you are yet to arrive at knowing what true love really is. Having this mind set and understanding would save a lot of relationships from the hurts and heart breaks that are on the rampage these days. It would help our youth and adolescents wait till they are mature in knowledge before going ahead to make a commitment to anyone. This will make them have the right foundation for a successful relationship which will continue even into marriage. Carefully consider what the opening verses of scripture say about love. If love doesn't have these qualities, the chances of such love surviving and lasting the test of time in a relationship is slim. Give your self to the love of God and let that love make your relationships a haven of rest.


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