HELP: MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN CHEATING ON ME!

 There is a saying that goes like this; when life gives you lemons, turn those lemons into lemonade. Well, that's a way of saying no matter how bitter the experiences life throws at you, it remains up to you to know how to positively react to get the best.

I thought to myself, it isn't only lemons life does give, it can also give apples and we can turn those apples into apple juice. My point is everyone under the sun has their different share of life's sweet and bitter experiences but not everyone constantly has more bitter experiences than sweet. 

So I stumbled on a random post a few days ago. It was a compendium of someone's life story and was seeking advice from the readers. The woman in question

had been married for over 23 years to her husband who she met and fell in love with when she was just 19 years. According to this lady, their marriage was going on well until she found out he was cheating on her. The pain, deception, and mistrust were so unbearable for a man that was her first, her only, and her best, and also, she had three kids with him. Finding out the pain and turmoil that her husband had put her into and how another woman was enjoying what she ought to have been enjoying fully, made her reason differently as she couldn't take the pain anymore and so decided to chat up her husband's mistress. 

At first, the mistress was skeptical but the woman reassured her that she wasn't going to get back at her nor judge her but that she just wanted to be her friend and know why she did what she did; hmm you would agree with me that what this woman did was a tough and smart thing to do to someone who had been having an affair her husband.

As time went on, they became super close and would confide with each other anything, to the point of even the mistress asking for money to give to her friend whose husband would give excuses that he didn't have or would not want to give her.

This went on for years and making their marriage a shadow of itself. She decided to give herself peace by letting go and focusing on her happiness.  Meanwhile, the mistress had to settle down in marriage with someone else who she had gotten pregnant for. She pleaded with her friend to forgive her for all she had done to her marriage, knowing fully well how her actions had shattered the marriage since she was now going to be a married woman hoping to enjoy love within.

Cutting the story short; her husband found out on his mistress's wedding day that his wife had all along been close to his mistress due to the infidelity he had with her and he was so sorry for all he had done and put his wife through. He pleaded with his wife to have their marriage back but it was too late as many years had gone by and she had moved on emotionally and mentally.  

Unfortunately, just when he was still trying to win her love back for himself and the sake of their children, he had a terrible accident that left him with a fractured right femur. Surprisingly, his wife was by his side all through the surgery and healing process in the hospital and this made him realize how stupid he was to have hurt such a woman with his selfish act of infidelity. She, on the other hand, had gone out to become very successful having chains of successful businesses and brands all to her name.

The lesson to take out of this is first, do not take what isn't yours. I say this, especially to single ladies who rather choose to be a married man's side-chick than have theirs. Why be the cause of pain to a fellow woman like yourself? Believe you deserve the best, put the necessary character in place and the best will come to you. Secondly, when we don't walk in love, we are exposed to harmful effects which could endanger our lives. Thirdly, when we choose to love, nature wouldn't sleep till it makes are you are happy and comfortable because love and nature have a pact.

If you were to advise her on what to do about the state of her marriage, the happiness of her kids that are now in their early twenties as well as her happiness (she found love as she is currently seeing a much younger man), what would that be?? Let's have you drop your comments below. Thanks in advance.

Your Love Coach,

TheLovejunkie