RELATIONSHIP TIPS: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS

I want to believe that you're enjoying yourselves wherever you live and follow LOVE ISSUES from. If you're reading this then I know God has been good to you. Today we're looking at something that will be a blessing to lots of people. I have spoken with people who have told me they do not have friends. Some people can only call the names of one or two persons they know as friends. While I do not condemn them for not having more friends, I think it's proper for this kind if people to learn how to make friends.

Life is beautiful when you have friends, great friends who share same values as you do. And life won't be as sweet without these friends. As someone who teaches on relationships, I have come to appreciate the fact that what makes relationships of any kind work well is when this factor of friendship is given its rightful place. Everyone needs friends and anyone can learn how to be a friendly person. You do not have to become artificial to be friendly but you should be willing to do some changes. Nothing can be different if everything is left the same way.

In today's discussion, the things I will focus on will help you change you by adjusting your perspective and thinking about people and yourself. As these change, your actions will unconsciously change as well. The things I share today are really simple but very much applicable. Please receive them with an eager mind and read again and again if you have to.


1. PEOPLE DO NOT WANT TO BE ALONE: It's high time you knew that people are yearning for friends. Even many of those who have lived as loners for a long time are longing to have company. A lot of people do not like the kind of lives they've been living, on their inside they are yearning to get to know more people. You see, someone who looks wonderful on the outside can be going through a lot of struggles on the inside. Lots of people are experiencing struggles, fears, insecurities and depression on the inside. That's why some people commit suicide. They feel they are not good enough. Having someone like you as a friend may make their world a better place. Many look around and cannot see themselves as wonderful. They just do not think of themselves as people who see them from the outside do. They can hardly spot anything good and lovely about their personality. The irony of the situation is that these people themselves may not be very friendly people but they will be more than happy to have friends. If you know this, it ought to inspire you to be more open-minded when it comes to making friends (even with those who don't appear friendly) knowing that people need friends.

2. START A CONVERSATION: The only way to have a conversation with someone is to talk. The challenge however with most people is that they do not know how to start a conversation. If you can start a conversation, then you have a potential friend already. I do not claim to be an expert in this but I don't do badly, at least not any more. You can start a conversation by being very informal. People who are always formal can be boring. Here's what I do. Sometimes I go ahead and say hello, then I introduce myself and ask the person for their name. One thing leads to another and then, the rest is history. For instance, I can use the current situation there to initiate a discussion . For example, if it's a program we're in, I can ask the person what they think of the program. By asking creative questions that get them to talk, the tension is being eased and gradually a rapport is taking place. You see, part of being friendly is being willing to set the ball rolling. God is that way, we see this in Jesus. When Jesus was at the well and met the Samaritan woman, He started the conversation. It seemed a bit rough at the beginning as she challenged His request but it ended just as He wanted. You too can follow His lead. Many people want to talk but most do not know how to start.

3. MAKE LIFE BEAUTIFUL FOR OTHERS: Knowing that people go through a lot, what can you do to not add to their worries and troubles? The answer to this question can help you make friends. As you take the first move, decide to make life beautiful for them. You can do this by being a source of joy to them. It may be by rendering them some form of help. Point is, as you are driven by the desire to make their lives beautiful and you go about doing so, you'll find that you bond more easily with people. Another very important thing here in making people's lives beautiful, is the ability to show concern. When you see someone sad and gloomy, does it mean anything to you? Are you happy when you see people are happy? You should be and if you are, then when they're not happy it will matter to you that they've lost their happiness. This simple concern you show for others makes you more friendly. Some people just want someone to ask them how they're doing and if everything is alright. Some people will be a whole lot happier if they just knew someone's out there who cares and wants them to be happy. In your own little ways, do things to make life beautiful for others. As you live with this at heart, you'll see opportunities to make life beautiful for the people you come across.

4. BE A PERSON OF STYLE AND QUALITY: This cannot be over emphasized. I once knew someone who many people at the time didn't want to be friends with because he was like a 17th century person in the 21st century. There was nothing wrong with him as a person except for the fact that he didn't care about style and taking care of himself. I know someone he made attempts to become friends with at the time but this person turned him down because of his negligence of himself. We may argue that that person should have been more tolerant and all that, but the point is, the way you manage yourself, carry yourself and present yourself to people goes a long way to either help you make friends or cause you to lose friends. It's not pride to have a sense of style. You can be humble and posh. Take care of yourself well. Groom yourself well and dress well. Incorporate some style. Be current. You can do all these with a good sense of moderation and you don't have to be very rich to live this way. God looks at the heart but men look on your outward appearance, so, give them something they would want to relate with.


These four things I have shared with you this weekend can help you initiate friendships. Quit being a loner. You need a healthy circle of friends. Everyone can learn something from today's post. A wonderful life partner is wonderful mostly because you share something wonderful together called friendship. If you're single and you want a great home, then you need to learn how to make friends because one of your friends may end up being your spouse.

Apply these things right away. Next weekend, God willing, we'll go a step further and share something even more wonderful.


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