RELATIONSHIP TIPS: SECRETS TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP

There are a couple of things I have learnt in life at this stage and I believe there are more to be learnt over the coming years. One of the things I've learnt is that the good things in life that bring good results and bless people are things done with a conscious effort and not the things we leave to chance. I said this to say that until you choose to work out the things you know in your heart, you cannot get the results you desire. This is how you get to experience good. When you look around you can see this at work in the people who are successful. They did things most people see as too much stress to embark on but they have arrived at their desired dream today. Now they're sharing their stories and the same persons who could not imagine doing the work they did, are sitting listening to them speak, nodding their heads and taking notes.

To have a happy relationship with your spouse, fiance, fiancée, siblings, parents, employees, boss, colleagues, neighbours etc, you must take responsibility for what you desire to see. We must be willing to invest into our relationships. If we do not work at it, the relationship will not work. Now let's delve into the things we have lined up this weekend for the nourishment of our relationships.


1) KNOW THAT RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE WORK: Some people expect that a relationship should be automatically smooth and so they get really bothered when misunderstandings arise. We ought to remember that we all have our differences. We have different mind sets, we've had different backgrounds and we won't automatically exactly see things the same way many times. If this isn't understood, we'll make little misunderstandings escalate unnecessarily. This may eventually cause a break up between two persons initially hoping they'll get married. One of the things that result from appreciating the fact that a relationship requires us to work at it, is that we do not take things to heart too seriously. We patiently allow our disagreements form an agreement that even binds us more together. This way we can stay happy and even become happier in spite of the little issues we deal with from time to time because of our differences. To stay happy you need to work at nurturing the relationship as much as lies within your power, using true lobe as your guide.

2) FORGIVE ALWAYS: This is one virtue that would help you in your relationship big time. No matter how annoying things get between you and your spouse/partner or whoever it is you're building this relationship with, it's good you both know how to always quickly bury the hatchet. But how do you do that? By being quick to talk about the matter and trash it there and then. Do not store hurts and hurtful things. Get them out in the open. If you allow it linger, it would cause more damage to both of you, and before you know it an ugly monster will develop from what looked like nothing, just like a small cut that when left unattended to becomes a large wound. So, choose to always raise the white flag of forgiveness first. One thing is certain, in dealing with people you'll be offended. It even gets more serious when you're dealing with a spouse or someone you want to marry. They may not do them intentionally, but they will definitely do things that will offend you more times than they thought they would and more times than you expected. So, brace yourself up and forgive. Forgive profusely. If possible, twice as fast as they hurt you.

3) BE AS OPEN AS A CHILD: Something else I value so much that I've learnt in life life, is the simplicity and openness of children. No matter how sweet, loving and frees-spirited a child is, when that child grows into an adult, it's difficult to see all those qualities present in them as they used to be. The reason is because we allow the things we experience in life substitute our transparency and pureness of mind with pretence and the lack of genuineness. This is usually the general case with most people. So, to remain like a child in many positive ways although you're an adult, you've got to be willing to work at it. Quit hiding your feelings and needs from your spouse/partner. Do not assume they already know you perfectly. Yes, eventually they may but give them room to develop in that at their own pace. When you conceal the way you feel about things, you make it difficult for you to be truly happy and that in turn makes them feel incapable of providing for your needs. Be free and open minded. Express yourself to them in a nice and gentle way, even if you have to do so again and again. Even concerning other areas, let's quit being pretentious and live open lives. Quit passing false impressions. Let's be our true selves. This is how we can really enjoy happiness in our relationships, by being transparent.

4) BE WILLING TO GIVE : A happy relationship is one where there is always a giving at all times from both parties to each other. Giving your time, your effort, your money, your attention, your tender loving care, your kind words, your trust, your faithfulness, your words of encouragement, support, help and anything that can be given, even your life (if the need arises). The point is, a relationship thrives when both partners are seeking to out-give each other in love. The problem many times is that one party waits for the other to act before they follow suit. We have learnt a lot from the world and it's no surprise that things are not flowing in many relationships as they should. Make up your mind to keep giving no matter what. If you're in the situation where you seem to be the one giving more, trust God to use your attitude and gifts to change the other person into a far better giver than you could possibly ask for.

5) MAKE OUT TIME TO ENJOY LIFE TOGETHER: Most people do not appreciate leisure time as part of their relationship. Many men fall into this category. These persons do not see the need to make out time to hang out, unwind, play and just relax in a very different atmosphere from that which surrounds them everyday. Yes, it's true that some people are totally comfortable without these kinds of fun but it's also true that others are not. So, if in your relationship you don't value such leisure times but discover that your partner or spouse enjoys such hangouts, then make out time to incorporate such into your relationship. It's common sense to know that the relationship will have a happier atmosphere if the persons involved are happy. Travel for vacations, visit new places, take trips together, go to the movies, eat out etc. God has freely given us all things to enjoy.

6) MAKE GOD THE CENTER: After all said and done, a relationship that will be a happy environment needs to have God at the center. It should not be the man or the woman at the center but God. As you both pray individually and together for each other and for the relationship, as you both learn and practice the Word of God, joy will be the result. Always pray for your partner. No one rejects a goodwill prayer not even an armed robber about to be executed, how much more the love of your life. So, pray for them in your closet. Pray for them when you both are together. Pray about what you want them to be and as you do, you should pray for yourself twice as much.

If you embrace these things and practice them, your relationship will be a place where joy and happiness abide. Do have a great weekend.


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