What Makes Your Marriage Tick?
Phoebe wondered how Audrey and her husband developed such a seamless relationship. They seemed like they never had problems and as if they'll never have one. She wondered if they even ever had slight misunderstandings because they always connected so flawlessly in love and understanding. This made their ten years old marriage so admirable although they were yet to have a child.
After admiring them for so long, she thought to herself that it would be a good idea to talk with Audrey about her amazing relationship with her husband, perhaps she could give her some tips on how they got along so beautifully. If only she could get that extra spark she saw existing between Audrey and Stephen, her own marriage would become heaven on earth.
"It's no magic my dear friend" Audrey told her. "One thing that has really helped me and my husband is that we agreed to be very real, honest and open about every detail of our lives to each other."
Audrey continued and by the end of their conversation, Phoebe had learnt a whole lot. She got to appreciate and respect her friend, Audrey, more than she had done before for opening up to her and sharing the wisdom that made she and her husband love and cherish each other so dearly although for over 10 years of their marriage they were still expecting their first child.
Life Favours Openness
My dear reader, we cannot over emphasize the need to be open and completely honest. Being open and honest to your partner/spouse does so much more to help preserve and strengthen your relationship than you can imagine. It's unfortunate that a lot of people cannot do without having to lie, pretend, hold back, falsify facts and even deny some information about themselves and their past due to one reason or the other.
To know what #LoveReallyCosts you need to appreciate the place of openness. In every true relationship that will last and stay sound, openness is needed by and from each of the couple. Mutual openness makes a couple know their partner/spouse is committed to them. It gives a sense of security and helps both couple know how highly placed they are in each other's life.
Two are Better than One
There is something that knowing every detail about your spouse does to you. From facts of one's past to the continuous changes that occur in the present and to plans for the future, every detail helps to bind the couple more closely. Being open also means sharing problems, challenges and successes. Two are better than one. It's through openness you cease to just live your life alone. By sharing with your partner/spouse all you would have kept to yourself,you suddenly begin to really see that two are better than one.
Some persons are too proud to ask for some counsel and advice. Their secrecy keeps making them lose things they should have gained. They make wrong choices and end up worse rather than better all because they do not practice being open with their partner/spouse. Some claim they do so because they want to shock and surprise their partner/spouse with their sudden success but marriage is not a competition. Two are better than one.
It may be an inspiration that drops as you're sharing things with your partner/spouse, an idea both if you stumble into or a comment made in passing, the bottom line is, when two hearts knit by true love beat over the same matter, the resultant effect is always better than what one person could have produced. Never forget that two are better than one. Being unwilling to be open means robbing yourself of something better than what you have at present. That's not smart.
Oneness Comes Through Openness
Openness helps you make a statement of trust. When you open up to someone you're telling them you trust them. There's no better way to communicate to your partner/spouse that you trust them and value the relationship you both have. We've got to practice being open enough to the point that your spouse can almost literally see through you. We've got to get to that point where each one of the couple knows what us in the mind of the other. Oneness is developed through openness.
Through openness a couple can get to bond both emotionally and mentally. The mistake a lot of people make is to go into a relationship without being transparent about their past relationships. This isn't right. Many very promising relationships have shattered because of such shady practices. When you're open as you should be, God will help you preserve the relationship. He will speak to the heart of your partner and encourage them to proceed with the relationship. Being open about your past is the proof that you're trusting God to preserve and prosper your relationship.
The More Openness,The More Love
I have even found that openness seems to increase the love in a relationship because the more you realize someone is open to you and won't hide a single thing, the more you unconsciously cherish them and draw them close. So, please share everything about your past. Never think giving such information will ruin the chance for the relationship to blossom. It shouldn't especially for anyone who appreciates honesty and openness. Most people want an honest relationship with their spouse.
Don't be deceived, if you can't be open and real to your partner or spouse, then you are not hoping to get a long fulfilled love relationship and marriage. Marriages you see succeed didn't drop from the sky. Being open is one very important factor that makes a marriage last. When a couple is truly open and transparent to each other, each of them can be more careful to do what is necessary to please their spouse/partner.
Openness brings about a strong emotional tie between a couple. So, the next time you're longing to feel loved, remember it comes with the responsibility of being honest, transparent and open. Thank God for the lovie duvie feeling but the commitment to openness is necessary for a beautiful relationship and marriage. Share everything, especially those things that you think may threaten the existence of your relationship. Share them and trust God.
Keep Loving, Keep Living...............LOVE ISSUES
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Good article!
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