NO MORE, NO EX

And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder.

And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up.
Gen 24:15-16(KJV)



It is not uncommon to see that many singles and young adults that are in the age bracket for marriage have either had one, two or a couple of failed relationships in the past. This has made many have bad history and past with people they dated back. Many have even lost hope on themselves in finding love. Many fight insecurities and low self esteem issues all because they went in for relationships when it wasn't the right timing. There are a lot of exes everywhere you go. I  even heard of a situation of two ladies who were good friends who dated a particular guy at different times. Unknowing to both, he dated one of the ladies but broke the relationship to be with the other due to selfish reasons. Things got really messy and they later got to find out. It made their friendship sour to the point of almost killing each other. Can you imagine good friendship been severed and even getting to the point of taking lives because of "The Ex"

Is it a must for one to have an ex? Do you have to go the way everyone goes? Or is having an ex a prerequisite that you will eventually marry right? On the contrary,  No. I know these days the message of an ex has almost become like an occurrence that must surely come to pass, in fact  it's a major topic in relationships. Its completely unavoidable for people who have dated and are still dating. For them, dating helps them to know who exactly they can be compatible with whilst at the same time having emotional ties with people who they wouldn't end up with as spouses; their exes which unfortunately makes matters even worse.

Truth be said, you really don't have to have an ex in your life and even if you have had, It okay that's past now; the aim hence forth is to not have another. An ex is like an ugly past you don't want to have anything to do with. Many fail to believe that they can have the right and best relationship that eventually culminate to marriage without having to have dated someone who they weren't sure was going the same direction as they were. Dating has produced so many exes all over the place. Why date when you are not sure of their values, goals, the common interest you both could have, their lives expectation for these are the major factors that make the choice of a partner realistic and not the sexual urge or the emotional connect or the crush you had that made you both begin to date and at the end you two realise it was a mistake,a waste of time. Hearts are broken, secrets have been shared and when sex was involved (which is usually the case many times) soul ties have become torn apart.

The good news is you don't have to become an ex or have an ex if you follow God's plan. You can reduce the number of Exes in your life by closing the place of your flesh and heeding to God's precepts for finding a marriageable partner. Just like Isaac and Rebecca who got married as they were each other's first were brought together by God's plan because they let Him, you too can.  Keep as many friends as possible, find and pursue purpose, be deliberate about learning principles for a healthy love relationship and marriage, stay in God's trajectory and when He sees you are ready, he brings the one He has formed specifically to you.