Relationships are the essence of life. Every thing we do as humans rises and falls on relationships. As a matter of fact, God created humans because he wanted to have a relationship with us all. The world would have been as empty as the other planets if relationships didn't exists.
Relationships is an avenue to help and nourish the people involved in it. A healthy relationship is a product of the wholesome values been displayed by the two individuals and who benefit from each other mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically.
Just recently, I heard of a marriage which had barely reached its first anniversary and had come to a ruin mainly because the man and woman in it were deceiving themselves when they were courting. They had placed the following things I am about to state before them, all because they thought marriage will make those things disappear. Marriage never dissipates toxicity, it exposes then even more, makes them full and blown out.
It's important to be true to yourself especially if you want to have a happy married life. A broken relationship is always better than a broken marriage. Do not settle for less because you feel you are growing old, time isn't on your side, your parents keep pushing you to get married, you are scared of being alone and thoughts of never getting someone of your dreams to get married to plaques you.
You are in a toxic relationship if the following applies to you in some way and you just can't place your finger entirely on the problem.
1)When all they want is sex before marriage. Sex wasn't made for before marriage nor for dating or courtship. Sex in most cases destroys the possibility of having a good marriage. How do I know this; Amnon wanted to marry Tamar so bad because he loved her but made a mistake by sleeping with her.
After wards, he hated her even more than he thought he loved her. Many of times, people who continue to have sex live in deception, they never want to own it to the truth. Please don't take this path.
2)When all they do is to give you headache, fear and heartache. You struggle to hang on despite the situation you face frequently from him or her. Please face it, you don't want this to continue in marriage.
3) When they always want to be at the receiving end. A health relationship is one in which the partners involved always want the best for the other. If they keep milking you without giving back to you, run for your life.
4) When you values, principles and standard of behavior doesn't tally or match with that of your partner. You both must be headed in the same direction in life and purpose and not the other way round.
5) When your relationship is a constant source of physical and emotional drain. Don't even think twice, this is a bad omen for any relationship.
6) When the relationship isn't taking your closer to your dreams and inspiration for your life or isn't encouraging to do more or to be more.
7)When you have doubts or unrest deep down in your mind about your relationship.
8) When nothing seems to work or improve in the lives of the people involved in such a relationship. Scriptures says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.
I believe God wants the best for you and he has promised you such. You only need to believe, trust Him and follow his words. You can't get the best on your own. Happiness is yours in your relationship or marriage, make the right goodly decision today.
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