EX THAT SEX!

 Taking a walk down memory lane, I remember back then in the nineties, there was this popular female music band called Salt N Pepa. They were so bold about the subject matter of sex, that they had one of their singles titled "Let's Talk about Sex". Interestingly, that single was their best hit and it topped the US chart consistently for over a year. Amazing!

We all know why that was made possible and if you still don't, well; it was clear that sex at that time was such a big deal and so it was sacred that people thought it was out of the norm or even shameful to talk about it the way it was, let alone sing about it in a song and also, it wasn't portrayed as the way it now where the word sex and it's act has become as common as bread.

Sex is a beautiful experience that should occur between a man and a woman. It's a gift given to every man and woman who have the desire of living as man and wife, to be so intimate as to also help in building a family together. 

Sex was given in the confines of marriage to bond the couple together making them become one flesh. Sex isn't just sex as many people think it is. Sex is as powerful as a  blood covenant that occurs or binds the two people in it firmly in all areas, especially their spirits, and souls. It makes even its Creator recognize it as a merging between the people. This goes to mean that when a man and a woman have sex with each other and also go to sleep with other people; they have a mingling of souls with these different people leaving off a part of themselves in each person.

Now, picture sex this way;  you know when you have to glue two unlike materials together but then you change your mind ripping pthem apart to have back the two materials as before, it would be impossible and you would wish you never even ventured in the first place. This happens because both materials take upon themselves a portion of the other making them both have completely different and new looks. This explains what sex does to people who just see it as a way to express intimate love without it being in the usual place it was created for; which is marriage.

Sex is sacred and should be taken as such. It's such a deep mystery and shouldn't be taken with frivolities. Like how sensual love is, so deep and intoxicating; that's how sex is. It ought to be a giving of the deepest part of a person to another solely because of the expression of intimacy, vulnerability, and a shared body soul, and spirit. You don't give that to more than one person. Sex is like the fire that keeps one's soul alive so that it flames more when shared with just one in the confines of marriage but is slowly put out and dies quickly when shared with more than one outside the confines of marriage.

Many more I could mention on the perils of sex when not experienced appropriately because so many relationships that could have become much more were destroyed because they allowed unwholesome sex to ruin their chances. And at this juncture, I remember the strong advice that the holy writ gave and it is to flee fornication (or cheating or infidelity) not necessarily because it's unlawful or a sin to engage in such practice, but majorly for us to be protected from the ills that this covenant meant for just marriage brings to our bodies, spirits, and souls.

So friends with this understanding, anyone can make casual sex a thing of the past. Treat it like how anyone would treat an ex that they never want to do or have anything with because it imparts negatively to the individual. It also does to divorce rates which keeps skyrocketing all around the world and is a result when people chose to get married because of the great sex they experienced outside marriage thinking it would be the same in marriage. It never does, as it is a mystery. 

Be deliberate to put away or abstain from casual sex, premarital sex, and infidelity and save more life for your body and success for your soul.

Your Love Coach,

TheLovejunkie.