RELATIONSHIP TIPS: VALUES OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP (7)

The expression "looking back" most times isn't one thing people want to do. Because of the sour feelings that come along, they often don't want to look back and remember the decisions they have taken in the past that yielded certain unfortunate results. It's like visiting or digging up the past. Of course, we need to learn and know how to allow bygones remain bygone but there is a good kind of looking back we all can and should do. We can "look back" at the things we have read and at the knowledge we have acquired. Sometimes the points that we jotted in our journal and Notepads could just be our saving grace.

I say all that to make this point that all the values that we have looked at can be re-read. They can impress wisdom and sound counsel in your heart and also in the hearts of your friends and/or loved ones who might be in need of a helping hand in their relationships. Today yet again we shall be looking at another value which I almost scrapped except for the fact that I remembered its dire need in the aspect of purity in relationships.


RELATIONSHIP TIP 7 - MODESTY:
Yes, modesty. I say it again because I know some of you would be wondering what it has got to do with a love relationship. It's my pleasure to inform you that it has everything to do especially with the relationship intended for marriage between a man and a woman. Modesty is the quality of being moderate; exhibiting reserve. Modesty is generally known by many to be connected to our dress sense and sometimes our behavior. No doubt modesty can and should affect those areas of our lives but I tell you this that modesty is more than what meets the eye. It is a virtue that comes from within. When it comes to our relationship with the one we love, the worth of its contribution cannot be over-emphasized.

It is said that men are attracted or drawn by what they see while women are attracted or drawn by what they hear. Starting off from what we all should know, being modest in your dress sense will do your man some good. And for the men, speaking the right words both verbally and through your body language certainly does same for your woman. Yes, we all know it's a relationship with the intention of marriage but remember that however slim it may be, there is still the probability of both not ending up as man and wife, since after all it is said that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. It's therefore vital to bear in mind that your partner isn't completely yours yet till you both have exchanged vows to each other in the sight of God and in the presence of men. I hope now you are beginning to see and understand why being modest does help.

For women, please walk with the understanding that until you both are married you cannot and should not just wear anything wearable because that could endanger your man and result in you both compromising what you both share. I heard of a lady that would go to offer help to the man she was courting and when it came to doing the chores, all in the name of being free and comfy she would put on short and skimpy clothing, torturing him in the process. It didn't help them very much. You see, inasmuch as we cannot make anyone do or not do a thing except they give consent, I still believe we have a responsibility towards them. This is because the two share a commitment. Just as a fulcrum placed at the centre of a seesaw, so is modesty in a love relationship. It helps bring in a balance into all the areas of your relationship.

Modesty is the value that is also termed self control in relationships and you know what having that virtue can do. Likewise the men also, you have your own part to play as you work at being modest in your disposition and choice of words when complementing, joking with or correcting the one you love. If apostle Paul could say he stayed away from eating meat so as not to make a brother derail or stumble, then how much more it's important for you to protect the interest of the woman you love, not only for her sake but more so for yourself. If holding back an action or a word could help the both of you in whatever way you believe it would, then please do so and as you do, you're sowing good seeds that will cause a harvest so bountiful beyond all you could imagine. The harvest will even spill into your marriage.

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