LOVE'S FORMULA

" There isn't any formula or method other than the fact that you learn to love by loving - by paying attention and doing what one thereby discovers has to be done." - Aldous Huxley


1 Jn 4:10
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent His Son to be the means by which our sins are forgiven.


Over the years people have searched for ways, methods or even formula that when correctly applied would make love possible and present in any relationship. But you can only love by loving. Gary Chapman in his classic book The Five Love Languages helps to throw light on what the author of today's quote is saying. Here's a compendium of his teaching. Gary says that every one human being has their love own love language. If this language is spoken to them, love is communicated to them. One therefore would have to be sensitive to them and observant in order to know what language they understand and how to speak this language; this is how to get the best of them in a relationship. Gary believes this is how to fuel their love. You see, Gary shows that love is an action - something you do. He encourages couples to learn about each other just as today's quote says and to do what they observe helps the other person function better in the relationship.

You need to realize that there isn't any other formula for reaping love in your relationship other than you loving first. True love is proactive; it makes the first move. Its sacrificial; it gives first. Many starry eyed couples are still hitting the altars each week to solemnize their union thinking falling in love is the key to living happily ever after. But before long, majority of these unions go sour as divorce and separation set in. We need to come to the realization and acceptance of the fact that to experience real love that would last in our relationships/marriages we need to be connected to the source of true Love and that is God himself through Christ Jesus. Until we understand what He has said about true love, nothing else can bring that long term happiness we all want to experience in our relationships. Such teachings of true love as His Word teaches us should be known. You should deliberately and consciously choose to do what His Word teaches, not what you feel.

A couple who have lived together for well over 50 years once said, "Longevity in marriage starts from picking the right spouse. However, no one can achieve this years unless he is willing to be a fool in the eyes of the world. You must never stop learning and forgiving. Talk to each other always. In doing so, you know all that you need to please your spouse. Observe the feelings and emotions of your spouse often and respond appropriately . Never let a day pass without expressing your love to each other. Share and solve everything together. Be mature to quarrel for the right reasons that's only when you learn from it. Prayer is key but obey more than you pray. Above all build trust and responsibility by your actions not just your words. That's the crux of the matter." Finally, as today's scripture says, love is not waiting for the other person to love you but as we see from God's example, it's about you making the move and doing what has to be done.


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