RELATIONSHIP TIPS: MAKING IT WORK

Over the last two months, every weekend we looked at values we all need to cultivate in our relationships to get the best out of what we're into. We considered necessary things we all need to take responsibility for in our quest to enjoy a sweet relationship. I do believe they sure did a whole lot of good to you especially if you chose to adhere to them. That's how we can all achieve the positive results those teachings promise.

For this weekend, we are gonna be looking at things we could do to help relationships that have been finding it a bit rocky, by that I mean relationships that have become a shadow of themselves; those relationships where the people involved do not see why they should continue to go on, where they do not see what brought them together in the first place, a relationship where the love has gone down the drain. You know, I have found that not every relationship fails because it was not meant to succeed. That is, it is not always true that when people break up and go separate ways it was because God never wanted them to be together. That attitude of always pushing our failures on God isn't a smart thing to do.

Yes, sometimes God shows us grace and mercy by helping us break free from the wrong relationships but God is not responsible for every relationship failure. Some things fail and fall apart due to the mismanagement of the persons entrusted with it. Having established all that, now let's treat the first things first. Today I am inspired to help relationships that should continue to stay alive. One of the first things you should know is that making your relationship work depends majorly on you both. Below I share some very crucial and helpful tips.

1) FRIENDSHIP: This is the most important. Yes, some successful relationships started and remained a success without any prior solid friendship as such between the two persons but in most cases starting a relationship not based on friendship is like going on an emotional roller coaster, when it's over you'll be dazed. The best of relationships are those which started off with the two being friends. In the relationship they tend to be so real to each other and have no need to hide who they really are or to pretend about their identities. You get to accept the other person for who he or she really is. If, however, your relationship didn't start on a strong foundation of friendship, you can still build it in the course of your relationship. It takes just open mindedness as well as choosing to accept your spouse/partner for who they really are.

2) PURPOSE : This sums up the goals, dreams and aspirations of anyone and their pursuit in life. Purpose has a way of gluing two persons together. As a matter of fact, love isn't enough to keep two persons together for a lifetime. When the feelings of love wear out, it's the love for what you both love to do that would in turn spark up and fan the flame of your affection for each other time and again. So, do you both have a corporate passion? What is it you both want to accomplish together? Are you a team with a desire to get something done? Being in a relationship is far more than romance; it's essentially about purpose.

3) CONTENTMENT: Why go into a relationship with someone you aren't contented with? I have heard many a guy say he won't mind leaving his girlfriend due to one reason or the other such as the lady not being beautiful enough, or not being as smart as he would want her to be or even perhaps she not being as intelligent as his friend's girlfriend. The list goes on and on. One thing is certain, no one is perfect, not even the person who's being so choosy. Each of us has been given different talents and attributes. A major part of your job in a relationship is to to help develop the other person more. So, just be satisfied with them, after all the things you are making a big deal of have been there all the while, just maybe you were so carried away not to have noticed. Bring out the king in him. Bring out the queens in her. Two are better than one. Your being there should help them be better.

4) SPONTANEITY: It's been said that variety is the spice of life and so it is with being spontaneous in your relationships. You don't have to do things in the same way all the time. Think of ways to be creative with your spouse/partner as touching things or ideas they would love you to do as well as positive behaviors. Add some flavour and fresh sweetness to your love relationship. Use pleasant surprises. Nobody dislikes joy and happiness. Some people just don't have it given yo them. Your partner can be sweeter and can be more radiant in ways you never imagined. Just be that trigger of joy and happiness they have been seeking.

5) ROMANCE These days in the world, it's almost impossible for two persons in a premarital relationship not to have sex before they get married. It's not true that the proof that you really love someone you're in love with is to sleep with them before you're married to them. Sex before marriage does not strengthen relationships. It actually does the opposite. As a matter of fact, because sex was originally made by the Creator to only exist in the confines of marriage, sexual intercourse prior to marriage tends to put relationships on the verge of breakups. Listen dear friend, it's like putting a square peg in a round hole. It doesn't work! Rather than resort to sex, there are decent and honourable ways you both can show your love and affection to each other as you look forward to being married.

6) TALK: Conversing with your partner does so much good in rejuvenating your relationship. Talk to each other about anything and everything. Arrange meetings just to talk. Find out ways of encouraging yourselves to say anything about anything to each other without being shy or holding back. One way to make your relationship stay alive is to always talk with your partner. Even God, knowing the importance of words had to leave us with His words, else mankind would have forgotten about God. You know, through talking with each other often, you keep your partner/spouse in your mind. Relationships are started with words. Relationships are sustained with words. Words are life givers and where there are no words, a relationship will die a natural death.

7) APPRECIATION: Nothing does wonders as always appreciating your partner for anything they do. Notice the good things about them and commend them for that. Notice their strengths. Notice their skills. Notice their good attitudes. Notice the little things they do because of you. It encourages them to do more and to know their effort wasn't wasted. Appreciation can range from passing compliments to giving a very warm hug, a peck, a kiss, a pat on the back and/or even a gift together with the magic word, "Thank you." Some marriages would still be on today, standing strong and inspiring others if this part was not left undone.

Beautiful relationships are possible. it takes commitment, work and two persons who are willing to make it work. Relationships don't work on their own; people make them work. Concerning your relationship, my dear reader, if you both don't work at it, it won't work. I was sent to help you make it work. Therefore, since it takes two to tangle, why not begin to spice up your relationship with these simple but powerful tips I've shared and watch your love grow again.


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