Ecclesiastes 3:14 (BBE)
I am certain that whatever God does will be for ever...
Nelly was so down emotionally seeing all her friends putting up display pictures of their boyfriends on all the social media. Her friends were announcing to the world how much they were being loved, how much their boyfriends meant the world to them, the excitement of being in love and all the mushy love talk. As she saw these everyday, gradually it made her feel empty inside as she remembered she was all alone. She had no special someone to talk to and/or to talk about. There was no one she knew who made her feel special. Before long, she began to think something was wrong with her, despite the fact that she was more beautiful and intelligent than most of her friends. Nelly started getting bothered because she had been in and out of relationships. Somehow they just didn't last.
It isn't news anymore how too soon people get to rush into relationships just because their friends and people around them are into one. In a bid to be like everyone else, to fulfil expectations placed on them or at least to prove that they are mature, they try their best to do anything just to get into a relationship, not minding if it's just for a while. In their desperation, sometimes they don't even care if the relationship won't last long and if it doesn't have an obvious future. They just want to wear the tag of being in a relationship. You hear them say, "Yes, this relationship isn't really about us going long term. We both know that. But who knows? It may just be that that might happen." Let's answer a question: Should relationships just be for a fling or to prove a point? So many people have had such experiences and in the course of time, have had themselves to blame because they wrecked themselves emotionally in the process. Wanting to be loved caused them harm.
My dear reader, love wasn't planned to be short lived. In fact, love relationships in my own opinion should only begin when a strong commitment is in place and marriage is in view. Except for that, just be friends. You don't need to get emotionally attached to someone first just to check if you'd love to spend your life with them. That's the world's way. You don't need to test the waters before swimming in it. The principles of God have been tested and found to be faultless. Following them will give you a successful marriage. God thinks long term. Notice our scripture for today. Allow this mentality affect your perception of how relationships should be. Tell yourself that it's not long term, then it's not God inspiring it.
Dear friend, do not be misled. Just because everyone is into something doesn't make it right. When it comes to relationships, place first things first. Get to know who you are; pursue your dreams, goals and visions. Let God define you to you. Understand what your God-given passion is. Build yourself in such a manner that you become one that can't be ignored, no matter where you are. Cultivate God's deposits in you until people honour your uniqueness. Stir up the giftings of God in you until you become indispensable. See God's blessings on your life. Value yourself in the light of God's graces upon you. When you invest diligently into being the best you God made you to be, people will want to associate with you. Nobody wants a liability as a partner. So, be unique and distinct. As much as you can, fully equip yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally and otherwise. This way people will long to be with you, rather than you longing to have a spot in their space. Study to know what true love really is and learn from other people's stories and experiences, so that yours will be a blessing to others.
Keep Living, Keep Loving..............LOVE ISSUES
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