Proverbs 13:10 (KJV)
Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.
When I sit down and consider the way we relate with one another, the way partners/couples relate with each other and the way communities and nations relate with one another, it is clear that pride is the reason for contentions, just as the Bible says. Each of us has to deal with pride very often. Many beautiful associations, partnerships, relationships and marriages have been dissolved because of pride. It's because of pride we want to hold on to what we believe is right although we know our position and the way we go about insisting on it, hurts the other person. The good news however, is that we can overcome pride. We can have healthy relationships. We can have relationships in which the other person is secure enough to freely express themselves without their ideas being belittled and rejected. Even if their contributions are not followed, they can be taken and sincerely appreciated. We can have relationships full of harmony, concord and unending happiness.
If you have been experiencing contentions in your relationship or marriage, the things you'll learn here today can solve those problems forever. Sometimes people just want to be understood. We all do want someone to understand us. A problem usually arises when we refuse to show understanding for the other person and their views. Let's remember that the Bible asks us to prefer others to ourselves. That is, to give them greater honour than we bequeath to ourselves. One way to do this is to first seek to understand the other person, even if they are wrong, before you seek to be understood. Let's take a married couple for example, if there's an issue being discussed and the woman's ideas are completely not useful, there is a proper way to install your ideas as the man without making her feel invalidated. As the woman, there's a proper way to install your ideas without making the man feel disrespected.
A man's number one need is respect. A woman's number one need is love that makes her feel secure in many ways. When we refuse to first understand what the other person is saying, why they're saying what they're saying and how they see things, we're completely robbing them of that which they need most. Many relationships and marital problems boil down to these things. Showing understanding for your partner/spouse means you'll be more patient to hear them out. It means you'll be willing to sincerely consider their views. It means you'll be calm in the way you communicate your thoughts. It means you'd work on being sensitive to the feelings of your partner/spouse. We all can work at this and improve, starting from the very little things.
The Bible tells us that Jesus, our high priest, is touched by the things we feel. That means He's sensitive enough to pick up our feelings. This is important in a relationship if things must work as they ought to. When a man is sensitive enough to pick up his woman's feelings and responds accordingly, she interprets it as love. When a woman is sensitive enough to pick up her man's feelings and responds accordingly, he interprets it as respect. Today, in very little ways, start seeking more to understand than to be understood. If you will do this, you'll shut off pride from your relationship and therefore, prevent contentions.
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