Being in a relationship is not the same as being committed to the person. There are people who have a phobia for making commitment. They can wile away time but
are not willing to put their hearts into it. Such persons are not ready to give and/or enjoy true love.
As a single lady, you've got to prepare your mind and your heart to get committed to one man. As a single man, prepare your mind and heart to get committed to one woman. Some people speak of the fear of the unknown.
There's no such thing as fear in true love. When you have prepared yourself through learning the true principles of love, you'll be looking forward to giving that commitment to someone and receiving it from that person.
True love demands commitment. You make up your mind to cherish and hold on specially to just one person. There cannot be several of them. Your ability to align yourself with the demands of commitment is a clear picture of your level of maturity. Children, as you know, are easily distracted by different colorful things and many sounds but an adult has the ability to ignore those distractions and stay on course. An adult isn't exactly as excited about different moving things as a child is.
This may sound hard but it's the truth: People who are unwilling to display commitment to and in a love relationship are not just immature, they also quite irresponsible. They want what such relationships can give but do not want the responsibility that comes along with the relationship. They don't want to stay true to anyone. A truly responsible individual has been looking forward to being committed to someone and is happy to do so.
There are also some people who are into some form of relationship where they even live like married couples in what is called cohabitation. They do every thing as a married couple would do but do not want to give their commitment to each other in marriage. They refuse to reach out for the higher and permanent level of marriage because they claim all kinds of things could go wrong if they get married. It's really so pathetic that grown up and in most cases, educated people, would resort to living as a bunch of cowards. This ought not to be.
You see, being committed means taking your love relationship serious with, integrity, honesty and intimacy. It means seeing it as one that would get to the desired destination, not as one just for the fun of the ride alone. It would interest you to know that people who get into relationships with a made up mind and a destination in view are more likely to find success than those who just get in in a half-hearted manner. This is because the latter category of people are somewhat insecure and sooner or later often feel no need to proceed, sometimes because of the fear that the other person will quit sooner or later.
You should go into a relationship for the right reasons: pursuing purpose and happiness with their person. Commitment is a relationship skill that must be continuously learned, practised and refined. You commit yourself and your all. Being committed means you pledge, promise and obligate yourself to someone you have chosen to love, knowing that someday your commitment would be part of the story that made your marriage work.
As you think of #WhatLoveReallyCosts and how to have a great home, understand that we don't only make commitments for ourselves but much more for our partner/spouse. Your commitment goes a long way to affect and determine the happiness of your spouse.
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