The dictionary says maturity is the state of being fully developed, grown up in terms of physical appearance, behavior or thinking. What this means in essence, is that maturity is that state in which a person exhibits exemplary and inspiring behavior and/or thinking that others seek to emulate.
Some people lack the ability to withstand pressure; the capacity to deal with issues like an adult while maintaining your sanity, calmness and decorum. A mature person has trained themselves to take charge of situations, no matter how unexpectedly they arise. They are not easily ruffled. They don’t fall apart when things fall apart.
All Forms of Maturity are needed
For a successful relationship and marriage, all forms of maturity are needed. Even physical maturity is necessary. This is why marriage is for adults - men and women - not for children. Some teenagers spend time they ought to use focusing on developing themselves into becoming people of stable character, being busy trying to fall in love. Love isn't for kids. Besides, there is no need to hurry. I have never seen an unripe fruit that tastes great.
What about mental maturity? This is very vital too. Some people appear fully developed physically but they have not developed their minds. They are still very impressionable and their thinking is still very porous. They cannot engage in intelligible conversations and their ability to comprehend a basic discourse is shallow. If you run ideas through such people, the ideas become weaker instead of better. Dear friend, your mind is in many situations even more important than your body. A hot body with a cold mind is not a good mix.
I once knew a man who could not discuss his business with his wife because she had no helpful contributions to make. They seemed to be decades apart in their thinking. If you're going to have a great home, your mind is important in the equation. So, develop yourself. This is one reason for going to school. Education is meant to help us sharpen our thinking processes and our ability to analyze and interpret facts. Give yourself to reading and to applying knowledge.
What Maturity Will Do For You
Indeed, relationships have everything to do with maturity, especially inner maturity. For someone to be mature in mind and character, they first have to be spiritually mature. You see integrity is spiritual. It is refusing to settle for something that violates the persuasions of your spirit. When a spiritually mature person is faced with opportunities to cheat on their partner, somehow they draw from their spiritual reserve and God pulls them through.
People ought to spend time investing in their maturity first. You can tell immature people when you talk with them, they get into relationships for all kinds of hilarious reasons. Those who are always carried away with the euphoria of instant gratification will make a mess of relationships/marriage. A mature person has looked far into the future. They have learnt to tame their passions and to take admirable steps today in the direction of what they see ahead of them. They are patient; they can wait.
Maturity also affects your choice in matters of love. You choose for purpose when you're mature, not just for pleasure. Don't get me wrong, pleasure is necessary but you give it attention after you have prioritized purpose. The person who has come to maturity is content. They are not looking for what the world is looking for. They have firm persuasions and do not run after colors and sounds.
Different Applications of Maturity
Maturity is never really a function of age. It comes by deliberate training and exercising yourself in knowledge towards a set objective. It's learning and practicing. A mature person is not easily ticked off. They are dependable and have trained themselves to accept the responsibilities bequeathed to them by God in a love relationship. They know there are principles of wisdom and uprightness laid down by God for their relationships and they have braced themselves up to apply themselves to these.
A mature couple understands that each of them keeps growing in love and that they ought to keep seeking new ways to help each other get better. They are dedicated to doing whatever it takes to see their relationship grow healthy and develop into one they can always be proud of.
Maturity is the ability to be dependable. It means keeping your word; it means living like your word really means something to you. It's walking in personal integrity. Where there is maturity there is no withholding stuff from each other, no pretense, no deceptions and no shame.
Mature Couples Set Each Other Free
In wanting to have a marriage relationship that reminds you of eternal bliss, you cannot afford to not work towards being more mature as an individual and in the way you relate with your partner/spouse. Allow each other the freedom to pursue your individual interests and the room to maintain friends. A mature person is not excessively possessive.
I leave you with this saying of a man called Bruce Fisher, "We can come to realize that mature love equals loving yourself for being what you are, and likewise loving another person for who they are. When we can feel such unconditional no-matter-how-you-act love, we have learned what I call mature love. Mature love allows you fully to be yourself."
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