Wisdom in Nature
I remember an experience that fascinated me when I was much younger. One day I saw a butterfly with colours that were so beautiful, it seemed as though an artist had painstakingly taken hours to do the painting. This butterfly was so beautifully designed that it made me want to always catch butterflies and just keep them. I could not help admiring them.
As time went on and I grew, I got to understand that butterflies come about after some transformation has taken place. This transformation process is called metamorphosis. It's amazing how an egg laid by a butterfly begins to undergo this process to become a shapeless and ugly caterpillar. It then changes shape again and becomes a pupa which looks like something in a sorry state when you look at it but as time goes on, it eventually turns into one of the most beautiful insects in the world that just leaves you amazed.
As you read the above paragraphs I'm sure some things probably ran through your mind. What nature teaches us through the story of the transformation of the butterfly is that without changes occurring, admirable beauty may never result. Life becomes beautiful when we allow the right changes to take place. Those who resist changes actually fight against their own colourful transformation.
The Only Constant Thing.
It's probably the most said cliché in life that change is the only constant thing but unfortunately it's the one thing many people tend to hardly accept. Many choose to prefer and hold tightly to their comfort zones rather than welcome changes because they have no understanding that it's one vital path to consistently take in life in order to find beauty and to get the best out of life.
I must say that everything and everyone experiences changes in life. From the trees around your place of abode down to the valleys and high up to the hills and even the mountains, all do experience changes one way or the other. Some changes are very minute while others are conspicuous. For continuous beauty there has to be continuous changes. You see, as we age in life changes are inevitable. They may be changes in perspective, changes in understanding which cause changes in the way we talk and do things, job changes, health changes, changes in appearance, relationship changes etc.
What I'd like you to see is that changes are constantly happening and for your relationship to be bettered, you need to create room for positive changes. When you resist positive changes or you don't schedule them on purpose, you unconsciously set negative changes in motion. Everyone has a free will which has been given to all men and everyone can choose to effect positive changes in everything they do because change happens to everyone everyday. It's high time you realised that things won't always be the same in your relationship. Choose to invest yourself into making the right changes.
Why Break-ups and Breakdowns Occur
Ever wondered why a sweet couple you so admired by mere looking at them, eventually grow bitter against each other? How do people who expressed so much love for each other and were once lost in love for each other some years ago, after being married for only a few years suddenly get a divorce? In general, couples who were once sweet, grow apart because they mismanaged changes and/or did not properly bring about positive changes.
Along the line, couples who failed to stay together (or failed to retain harmony in their relationships) found themselves in a place where they both had series of changes. The inability to produce positive changes and/or to manage negative changes eventually resulted in a break up or breakdown of peace, oneness, love and harmony. Believe it or not, the causes of break-ups, separation and divorce are all traced to various changes in the relationship. Both persons involved could have chosen to let the changes in their embattled relationship bring about a positive outcome but in many cases, they didn't.
A lot of persons are yet to understand or know that love isn't enough to guarantee the success of a relationship. Knowing how to handle the changes that arise from your partner, is key. Please do not get me wrong, there are situations under which separation may be the wisest thing to do but generally speaking, every relationship can be made better.
Program the Changes You Want to See
The Bible teaches us to keep our heads up in every circumstance. No matter where you find yourself or what you find yourself in, maintain good faith and be grateful to God for changes because though they may come unexpected and as things we do not want, along the line they could turn out to be blessings in disguise. Having said all we've said so far, it's vital we learn to deliberately prepare ourselves to effect constructive changes in our relationship.
Together, look at where you'd love to be in different areas and begin to gravitate towards your target by changing strategies, methods and patterns. Be adventurous. Press in for something better. More love can be expressed. More joy can be experienced. More wisdom can be applied. More understanding can be operated in.
Changes are bound to occur. So, rather than wait for an uncertain wind of change to come blow you to an unexpected destination, as a couple, design and dictate the kind of changes you want to see in your own lives and in your relationship. Program yourselves and your relationship to move from where you are to where you both desire. When we prepare for and enforce the flow of the right changes, we'll find out that a transformation begins to take place and things will begin to look more beautiful until we arrive at a beauty so amazing that people seek to replicate.
Keep Loving, Keep Living..........LOVES ISSUES
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