Life itself is a mystery I must confess. Whilst some are having the best days of their lives at the moment yet there are still some others who aren't despite doing all they believe will fetch them happiness. Interestingly, these things go on in different aspects of life and finding love is sure one of them.
A couple of weeks back, while I read on different experiences of people who found love; the things they did, what they had to learn and unlearn and stuff they had to forgo to become better before love found them. I was reminded that the subject of finding love could be way different for different folks but the end point should always be happiness which is what everyone seeks after, a kind of happiness that stems out from being truly loved. Believe me when I say we all are love beings, wired in such a way to be loved always. That's how our Creator made us for in Himself is the true nature of Love.
We all want partners who fulfils our dreams of a happily-ever-after union just like we see in the movies. But is that really possible, having a marriage so full of bliss and happiness? Can someone really find love as good as it's portrays in the movies? Or is it just fairy tale?
Love I believe is most common but yet seems like it's so difficult to lay hold on. The force of love is what has made the world come this far but unfortunately, in a world where separation, and divorce and all sorts of ills concerning the Love are the order of the day, it makes it really difficult to believe one can have a successful love relationship or a happy marriage.
The problem has always been how many view love. Love isn't a feeling, it isn't emotions either. You should not think that the strong feelings of love you've got for her will make a marriage work. You shouldn't rent the space in your mind of thinking the way your body reacts when you both are together will make a marriage work, that's the mistake people make. Apart from the fact that isn't love, even love in itself (as a commitment) isn't enough to make a marriage work. It's imperative that we understand this, that feelings of love are important but they aren't the first line of action in making a marriage work.
Now let's focus on the main subject for today which is "Choosing Right". Before awesome relationships /marriages come about there are so many things that should be thought deeply. The foremost is to make up our minds on the kind of person we would want to spend our lives with and in so doing, we have got to allow facts to override feelings most of the time and never allowing our feelings to override the facts, and importantly, making that a habit lest we make silly mistakes for facts are not subject to change but feelings are. Relationships that are bound to lasts are built on facts not feelings.
Feelings of love are always deceptive when faced with having to settle with someone, for they subject to change just like chemical reactions that goes on in our bodies every second. That's why you'll need something more convincing when choosing rightly and this are facts, facts about the person. How well do you know them?, what attributes do they reflect that made you drawn to them?, do they have a sweet and meek spirit?, are they loving and accommodating?, are their characters something you can tolerate, how do they react when they are angry?, are they going in the same direction in life as you?......
To be continued
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