SO YOU THINK YOU'RE SINGLE?

The Mistreated Lady
I know how terribly hurt you are right now. It feels like you should just take your life. You spent almost everything you had on him. Even the balance in your emotional bank account depleted just because you were trying to make him happy. You even had to protect his name and  your shame when you discovered you were pregnant and he advised you to go ahead to do an abortion. Without even thinking of the consequences, you did it, not once nor twice, all because you love him.

Sometimes you ponder and wonder if he really does love you but the promises he's been giving you that you both will be married and will build a home together has made you stay. Right now it's obvious that his promises that once gave you hope are actually not only bleak but also empty.

From time to time, after subjecting yourself to such a demeaning way of living and to so much disrespect from guys, you suddenly begin to ask yourself who you really are. You've been so disrespected that you wonder if this is the way it has to be. Something inside you tells you you do deserve better. You keep getting such treatments but in your heart what you want is lasting love and a relationship that will culminate in a blissful marriage.

The Careless Dude 
It's not new to you how girls are always wanting your attention. In fact you are used to it. That's what you live on. It keeps boosting your ego, that's why you keep having countless relationships in your life. What you say is, "It's not my fault, it's my physique. I'm tall, dark and irresistibly handsome." This is the excuse with which you keep breaking hearts and just can't keep to one relationship.

You lack the discipline to make a serious commitment. You really are not bothered so much because you believe that when the time comes for you to settle for marriage it won't be difficult to get a lady you'd marry.  For now you'd rather test the waters and live life without caution.

The Error Young People Make
So many young people, both ladies and young men can relate to the above described scenarios. They think the state of being single is a time when, as they say it, they experience life to the fullest. They see it as a time when anything and everything goes. Unfortunately many get it all wrong with a perspective like this and they succeed in damaging the foundation of their lives. As a result  they build their future on regrets and misfortune.

Many do not know who they are or where they stand. They have allowed society and peer pressures dictate what life should be. But I tell you, being single is not just being unmarried. It's a state of mind that displays emotional stability and maturity when it comes to one's perception regarding the issues that really matter in life. A wise man once rightly said that being single means being separate, unique and whole.

Being Truly Single
A single person is one who has a sense of wholeness and completeness in themselves and in their relationship with God.  He or she isn't looking for completeness in someone else. A person who's truly single has a good sense of identity and purpose. Being single is not the same thing as being lonely. A lonely person is seeking to be complete in someone else's company. A truly single person is aware that they are complete in their union with Christ. A truly single person is busy enjoying working on their purpose.

Adam, the first man on earth, is a good example. The Holy Scriptures show us that he was so occupied with working and carrying out the responsibility his Master had given to him. Adam knew who he was and what was good for him. That's why when his bride was unveiled to him, he recognized her as being fit to play a role in his life. Hence, his exclamation, "This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh."

If you must be outstanding as  a single you must discover your main purpose. Know your destination before boarding the vehicle of marriage. Stop being led by your feelings alone. Do not waste your youthful years with frivolities. Channel your physical, mental and emotional energies in the direction of serving God passionately and fulfilling your life's assignment. Lay a solid foundation of happiness and joy for a glorious future ahead and trust me,  it will come in grand style.

Cheers.