YOU DESERVE MORE.

"Blessed be God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble by the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."      2 Corinthians 1:3-4:

It's been a little over a year now since you both went your separate ways and you wonder how you have been able to come this far. At first, you thought you couldn't live without him, you thought if you two didn't make it to marriage, you will probably die because of the love you had for him but thank God for his mercies and grace that had brought you thus far.

 It couldn't have been anything you did or anyone's effort but yeah, you know your mum and few closed friends kept praying for you during that setback. Thank God it's all in the past now and to even go back in time in thoughts of how badly in love with him you were, you wonder why you let him fool you that way.

Now it makes a whole lot of sense. He wasn't so crazy for you as you were for him. All the things you did for him, the sacrifices, the gifts and the time invested into the relationship were sort of, more from your end than his. You remember being told by your very close friend then that "if a lady loves a guy more than he loves her, that relationship isn't bound to last",  you see that it makes a lot of sense to you now and you have learned from your own experience.  Without mincing words, you are a beautiful, well-educated lady with a great heart, a professional. You’ve got great prospects, a great future ahead.

For crying out loud,  you deserve more.  You deserve a man that would pour all his love on you and appreciate all your beautiful qualities, a man who will showcase you so well that his friends will pray they get to meet someone like you for keeps, what your ex couldn't behold or even fathom. I bet you, he will realize it soon of what great gem he lost especially now that he has settled down, for his kind is one that goes after the container and that which sustains it, riches, rather than the content of a meek and quiet spirit, even which is of great price to God. But when he does it will be too late because marriage is for life.

Forget about the notion that's flying all over the place of getting a divorce and still getting to marry someone else, my dear trust me, you don't want that either, the path of living a life of a divorcee is very messy, no one actually sees that coming, if not, they would not have opted for it. Now that you are over the hurt, get yourself together. Please don't be pressurized by news of friends around you getting married or getting engaged. You have no idea of the fears some of these ladies have locked inside them. Just imagine a lady had told me last week of the fears of not getting someone to marry her if she doesn't manage her current fiance who she knows has infidelity issues. Unfortunately, she won't even listen to any advice as her mind is made up already, how sad.

 Now is the time for you to begin to nourish your body with goodies and your mind with the right words and information especially on God's practical ways of getting the marriage He wants you to have.  Just as Eve was made for Adam, I believe every woman was made for a man. I believe every woman was made to be loved and cherished. I believe from God's word that every woman should have a man as her crown and husband over her head except those who choose not to. My heart goes out to you even as today's opening scripture says, be determined to gain sense, do not let afflictions keep a toll on you a second time, believe in yourself and keep hoping for the best.

For emphasis sake, ladies you can't make a man love you or want you no matter what you do.  The Bible says  '' Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the LORD ''.  (Proverbs 18:22). It's not your job description to assist him in finding you. Let him do all the chasing, that's how God intended for it to be.  If he doest love you then move on. There's no need staying in such a relationship. Stop wasting your time and emotions on him. It's lame to think that if you give him so much attention, gifts, sex and etcetera, he will consider you.  Truth is, No, He won't. You deserve more. Let God's word sooth out your pains and worries, you will testify soon. It's surely going to end well only trust in God and his words.

Your Love Coach,
@thelovejunkie