LOVE LEECHES

The leech has two daughters: “Give” and “Give”. Three things will never be satisfied; four will never say “Enough”—
Proverbs 30:15(ISV)

I was his girlfriend for over 5 years. I was like everything to him. What didn't I do for him as my boyfriend, you name it, in short everything you can think of. He made me move into his house, yes we cohabited; well don't judge me because he had promised me we would get married after a year of me leaving with him.  I didn't think otherwise because he was so nice, he would give me anything I wanted but not until I got to do something for him first.

There were times when the chips were down with him financially, I would give him money, enough just to support him because for me, I already saw us as man and wife but unfortunately, not until recently, we had a little argument which wasn't supposed to even last few hours but surprisingly, he told me he was over with our relationship. After trying so hard to let him change his mind, I received a shocker - he will be getting married few weeks from now.

How bad can it get?  Trust me really bad. This is just one account of a lady who I read about some time ago. There are countless situations of ladies been deceived by men all in the name of love and marriage. Just recently, a young lady also opened up to me of how she was so much in love with a guy to the point she would confess her love to him (that's such a bad move)  and just be opened to him since they had a close relationship but not exactly dating. This guy would enjoy the moment as well as accept  the attention from her but unknowing to her, he was in a serious love relationship that was culminating into marriage. Yeah, she just got his invite  for his wedding - how inhuman.

You already know what these categories of men fall into,  what I call "love-leeches",  apparently women are not left out. They feed on people's emotional bank accounts wrecking or leaving them empty when they have no viable intention of making a
 life long commitment with them. They are like parasites; clinging to take from another and never wanting to give in return the kind of love and attention they desire. They go to any length just to make sure they willingly make withdrawals  from your love tank for them. At the end of the day, you realise you have played the fool.

Why hurt yourselves, why allow yourself to be fooled by the deceitfulness of dating and having 'boyfriends' or 'girlfriends'. These are just avenues where love-leeches are bred. "So how can  I know who's best for me if I don't date?" One might want to ask. Hey, who said one has to date before they get an awesome partner? The teaching of God's  Word supports the saying "Love whom you marry and not marry whom you love" as told in the book of Genesis 24. This is an all time classic of the story of Isaac and Rebekah. For love relationships to work, you surely don't need to go from one dating to another, what you need are developing good friendships, reading a lot on love and relationships and marriages, never stop adding value to yourself and also making up your mind to do things the right way and then when the time is right, your Mr Charming or Miss Awesome walks into your life, you'll just know it because you have been feeding your mind right.

I hope you choose the highway and quit making people take undue advantage of you. Desist from allowing love leeches thwart the course of your glorious future. You are much more than this. Have a wholesome view of your personality. Don't trade yourself to anyone for cohabitation on the ground of a promise for marriage. Keep your head high and trust God to lead you to your partner. Remember you are to love whom you marry and not marry whom you love. Cheers!