Flirting is a very subtle thing. To flirt is to behave as though you playfully are attracted to someone and make it known to them playfully. And because it's '' playfully '' you or they shouldn't take you serious.
Now, just as the words of Jesus in Mathew 5:28, when we flirt, it's something inside us majorly our lust that's being nourished. Take for instance, you already have a partner who you are committed to in courtship or marriage but then , you met someone who you like ( it could be that you are drawn to him or her sexually or otherwise) and of because you know or feel nothing can happen between you both, you go ahead and start flirting but what you don't know is that you jeopardize yourself and your relationship in so many ways.
First, your level of purity before God is at stake. In 2 Tim 2:22, we are told to flee youthful lust of which flirting is categorized as, and that we should pursue purity from a clean heart. Unfortunately today people don't even bother about their moral standings anymore. To them, everything goes. But when pleasing God is ones stand at all times the the possibility of flirting won't even surface .
Secondly, the level of trust diminishes. Love is Not Love Without Trust. There is no reason for loving someone if you cannot safely trust them. Love is pointless and good for nothing if you cannot trust your spouse/partner. I always knew I could not marry someone I could not trust and that I would not marry someone and not trust him. Both giving trust and being a person who can be trusted are vital parts of true love and intimacy. These open the door for safety, security, respect, as well as assurance and flirting has no place in all these. The more we become trustworthy people, the happier we become ourselves and the sweeter our relationship gets.
What is to be done?
1) Confront Him or Her. Get to find d out what they do that. Some people might say it was a joke but be reminded this saying '' Na from clap them dey enter dance. Any one who says flirting is a joke is a Joker. You don't joke with people's emotions at all. Ask them with wisdom why they do that and get to hear their reason. What ever reason they give should be the next step on deciding if your relationship should continue or not.
2) Flirting is a sign that your partner won't be romantically committed to you in marriage. He will share your love, affection, tender loving care and in some cases sex with other women. If he doesn't work on it and see someone who can help him kill that spirit, then he should be given some space.
3) A broken relationship is always better than a broken marriage. Save yourself the stress now, if they are not willing to desist from flirting with the opposite sex then they probably aren't the right partner for you. Marriage can't be managed neither can it e shared with someone else emotionally and sexually. Take the exit door.
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