Relationship Tips: Values of a successful Relationship (3)

Life is guided by principles which when adhered to gives one the best of what life has to offer. Just as when it comes to owning a business one must sit down first to count the cost, making the right plans before venturing in it, so it is with the values that make a relationship successful, both before and when in it. In the last two weeks, we looked at two values which I said were foundational in making our relationships a haven of rest. This Saturday we'll examine the third value.

RELATIONSHIP TIP 3: HONESTY
One of the things that amazes me in life is to find people wanting the truth to be told them when they're not willing to give the truth to others. They hold the school of though that it's surely part of life to tell lies once in a while and that it's something we can't do without. I have even heard from men that women just are comfortable when you lie to them and tell them anything they want to believe. But that can't be true at all. To have a healthy relationship with anyone and if you must get along as good friends, honesty and truth are key, then how much more in a love relationship.

One sure way of fueling emotional intimacy with your spouse/partner is sure by being truthful with them. Being able to share secrets, experiences, thoughts and feelings to a deep level with no other person other than whom you've chosen to love is just golden. We should be excited about this and not make a mess of this great privilege by fouling it with insincerity. Even our sweet heavenly Father knows how important this is in relationships. He tells us in His word that He knows the thoughts He has for us, giving us an insight into the fact that He has plans and mental pictures to bring us to ends that He has arranged for us. Isn't that just so sweet? Now let me give you another illustration.

Kimberly and Jason had been childhood friends ever since their homes where apposed side by side to each other making them neighbors. But as they grew up, having attended same nursery and junior high schools, they went to different senior high schools but met again in college. They had become so fond of each other that when they met again they knew they were made for each other and started off a relationship which led them as time went on to becoming man and wife. Over the years they had opened up to each other about everything and anything without holding back but Kimberly held back something because she was afraid that if Jason got to know, that would be the end of their relationship.

So, she kept it from him hoping it would be a secret forever. But unfortunately when it became difficult for them to have a child, they had to see a doctor who confirmed that Kimberly had had an abortion in college that terminated her ability to ever conceive a child again.. One can imagine the devastation Jason went through especially since he had not held back anything from Kimberly. He saw no reason why she could as well have told him about it.

Sometimes we think when we hold back truth from our loved one we protect them from getting hurt. But we actually are putting ourselves in a state of more hurt. There are two things we do for ourselves without even knowing: forgiving others when they hurt us and being plainly honest about facts that affect us. Though we do not know it, these things are for our own good than it is for others. Yes, being honest and truthful might not always feel pleasant but it sure makes one free from any burden or weight that holding back or lying causes. I leave you with this saying, "Loving without truth is no love because there is no fear in love."


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