RELATIONSHIP TIPS: VALUES OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP (6)

Like a friend of mine would say, words shape the world and not just words but the ability to use words to create the desired mental picture that the mind has created. With words you can actualize the picture in your mind. When you start talking the picture in your mind, you'll eventually produce actions that match that picture. Yes, its been five weeks of helping you understand first, and also hopefully getting you to produce some fundamental qualities that help strengthen any love relationship. I believe it's been insightful thus far. This week we are looking at yet another very important quality which when lacked causes commitment to go sour.

RELATIONSHIP TIP 6 - TRUST:
Trust is the building block of a sound relationship. Yes, we have looked at five values which in themselves are imperative to the success of any relationship, and trust as a value is paramount. It has got in it the components of being honest, reliable, dependable and responsible. To trust someone you must have come to a point where it's as though you give that person the key to your life. Of course, I'm sure you know that means a lot. This value called trust doesn't just come from the blues, it takes time to build. I believe that such a period where trust can be established is during friendship because by looking at how well they relate as friends, you are able to predict if two people can really get to be inseparable.

In LOVE'S GLUE, one of my past daily articles on LOVE ISSUES, I stated that trust is as a glue which binds people in a love relationship/marriage together. I did also say there that love is both the reason for love as well as the result of love. It's like bringing love and trust into a mathematical equation which makes them simultaneously equal. Love is as good as nothing if you cannot trust your spouse/partner. Trust is a vital part of true love and intimacy. It opens the door for safety, security, respect, as well as assurance. For a relationship to blossom and for trust to be truly enjoyed, then has got to be two sided.

There's a level of connection you get when you share personal information with someone who does same with you. Especially when it's someone who complements you in certain areas such that both of you bond pretty easily. Trust can be said to be equivalent to being vulnerable to someone yet being certain that your vulnerability is protected.

There are a hundred and one things that could in the twinkle of an eye shatter the trust that took years to build. Things such as lies, violence, disloyalty, unfaithfulness and the worst thing which cripples trust completely is sexual infidelity. Trust is like a well decorated beautiful wine glass that when broken can never be put again into its original form, no matter how much you try. Not being able to trust one's spouse/partner doesn't make love sweet and enjoyable. Where there's distrust people are entangled with fear and insecurity. If you're seeing someone and you still have insecurity because of the absence of trust , then I believe you should stop and think properly. Work towards overcoming that uncertainty by beginning to build trust.

Help your spouse and yourself by staying transparent about every detail in your life and hope for the best. Love is light and in the light everything is revealed. This is what true love is like - everything is on the table. A healthy and blooming relationship sure has this value tucked in and around. Be a trustworthy person in your relationship because without trust then there's not reason to continue.


Keep Loving, Keep Living...............LOVE ISSUES
@bibilovejunkie