WhatLoveReallyCost: Time

What About it?
In our world today, patience and quality time has almost become a thing of the past for many people. It seems everyone's in a bit of a hurry and everything is being done fast. We hear of fast food, fast technology etc. Relationships also are being handled that way by many. A boy and a girl meet, they claim the love for each other is too strong. They have a one night stand and before you can recite the alphabets, they have gone separate ways.


Many do not want to take easy steps to cultivate and grow the love they profess. They don't want to give it room to mature and to know if it's something that's real and could last. It's wrong to let the most important things in life just slip through the usual routine, caught up in the web of making quick judgments and rash decisions. It's wrong to be hasty when dealing with things that should be proven with time.

You see, time is a gift from the God that makes living on earth worthwhile. It is said that one reason God created time is so that there would be a place to bury the failures of the past. I have cause to concur. As we look closely at this rare gem in making our relationships worthwhile, determine within yourself to apply the simple things you'll learn.

Essence of Quality Time.
Gary Chapman in his book, The Five Love Languages expounded on the importance of sharing and giving one's time in a quality way to their loved one or spouse. Time is an asset. Time is life. Spending my time with you means you matter to me. It means I have space for you in my life. When I share my time with you I'm saying I actually enjoy having you in my life.

Everyone on earth has been allocated the same amount of time - 24 hours daily. Therefore, it's precious when one sacrifices and lays down their time on the altar because they want to bring joy to the one they love. Time shared together with your spouse or loved one is regarded as quality only when it is intentional. The fact that it's a deliberate action from our hearts is what makes it unique and special.

For instance, giving your rapt attention to your spouse/partner as they talk, especially when they are being faced with a challenging situation, shows how much you value them. Hearing them out carefully is a demonstration of your love for them. Even God in His all busy schedule running the entire universe, does take out time to pay attention to us.

Make Plans to Spend Time
As you make plans for things that are important to you, it's important that you also plan to spend quality time with your partner/spouse. Plan out time to discuss and share your thoughts in different matters of life. Think about how he or she would love a time out together. Since you know them to some extent, you can tell what they'd like. Arrange the time out.

There are a thousand and one things to talk about when you hang out. Take out time to share the wisdom of God, as revealed to each of you. Then, see how you can apply it in ways you deem fit, to your lives and to your situations. Pray together with the scriptures as a guide. Together confess God's Words and make inspired declarations over your lives. Make plans together. Discuss how you'd like life and events to unfold in time to come.

Talk about the present. How can life become more meaningful? Spend quality time talking about your assignment on this earth. How will you fulfil it? How will you make it a reality? From where you are, what do you  do next? How are you going to work hand in hand to see to it that you don't just live to satisfy your appetites and desires but that you live your lives to fulfil the reason God brought you here.

Alone Time.
There are quite a number of things to know about successful love relationships and one of them is that the relationship has to have the ability to make you and your partner better persons; you've got to be able to grow up to become an emotionally stable, mentally mature and physically fulfilled person both together, as well as individually.

Each one of us needs our alone time to refresh and replenish ourselves in doing the things or activities we love doing in order to be filled again to be able to pour out what we have on our inside to our loved ones. We can only give what we have, what we have stored within us. So, we must give each other the room to develop and grow. We must give each other the room to study, to pray and to do whatever we believe it takes to be in a state of equilibrium as an individual.

Whether the quality time you create with the one you love is a few minutes each day, an evening a week, or a weekend away, all it takes to make this happen is a choice to make it happen and a commitment to that choice. Anyone who loves someone is capable of doing this when they understand #WhatLoveReallyCosts

Giving quality time to your loved one I believe isn't just one of the languages your spouse might or might not appreciate, trust me when I say that everyone wants to be loved this way, felt, appreciated and held in high esteem. One of the proven ways this happens is when quality time is given to the one we love.

Love&Relationship Coach.
@Bibilovejunkie