SWEET SHENANIGANS 2

The consequent downward voluntary spin hit the rocks when he reached for my under pants. "Sister in Christ, what is going on with you?  How did you allow this get far?'', I thought. My blouse was gone, my bra had shifted, then he quickly left me, dashed into the room. His steps were so solid and swift that I wondered where the malaria had disappeared to.

As he urged me on when he returned, one glance at the condom told me we had hit the bottom line. I had to do something,  and fast at that. ''Oh Lord, help me'', I prayed under my breath.

I made a half hearted attempt to regain my composure and stay away from Victor, but my body had never felt this good. My lips tried to speak out but once again, I felt his lips press hard against mine and his warm hands through my hair.

" O Lord, is this me?  I'm gone. Send me help now if you need this to stop!"

The door bell rang.


I guess some of you must have exclaimed, ''phew, she was saved my the bell" while some others already think they didn't harken to the profuse ringing of the bell as Hilda gave into Victor and probably  lost her virginity.

Well, I'm tempted to leave you at this juncture and let there be two school of thoughts here but hey, not only do I love happy endings, I also like saying it real, by that I mean this is someone's experience and as she let me in on it, I was overjoyed she found strength to refuse Victor when the bell rang tirelessly. Indeed, help was sent from above or what do you think?

Okay, permit me to bring out some of the lessons or points I'd want us to consider.

1) Have more to offer than just Sex:  lately, I saw on social media a famous singer and influencer saying and I quote '' Most ladies offer only sex and nothing more''. I understand that she spoke out of the abundance of her heart and I know unfortunately it's true for so many ladies but then that shouldn't be. Every woman has more than what it takes to be more and offer more. King David first saw in Abigail good sense which earned her his respect. That good sense worked for her and made her foolish husband Natal to get replaced by King David.

Don't put up an appearance both physically and mentally that makes the opposite sex just want to have nothing else but sex with you. Also remember that your first sexual organ is your mind, if you make up your mind and heart just like Daniel purposed in his heart, nothing will be able to stop you and if it's gets really close just like in the case of Hilda, well I do hope you too can have the grace to still overcome it

Sex is a gift from God to married couples. When you give it before you get married, you expose yourself to emotional, physical and spiritual problems and trust me, those can be very upsetting to deal with but thank God for his Spirit.


2) Don't ever underestimate the power of two lovers alone : when two people who have committed themselves to a love relationship and do not also set boundaries intentionally to protect their cookie jars, anything can go wrong that's why we say don't ever be left alone in an enclosed place because your emotions would want to take advantage and it sure will. Be Intentional, don't let chance just happen because it could lead to regrets.

3) Define your Relationships: Many times this leads to heart breaks. People go into what their mind call a relationship but to the other party, they are just friends. Don't pull the trigger before it's loaded, ask questions, if you feel your emotions are getting the best part of you, confront the opposite sex to know what exactly such relationship is. Defining a relationship creates boundaries which eventually helps and protect you from wrong decisions.

4) Quit dating till you are quarter to marriage: Temptation comes in different shapes and sizes. Why go into a relationship when you are not ready to settle down in marriage? Many times people get to waste both their time and emotional tank on someone they aren't sure they will eventually marry. My advise, don't just go into a relationship because you want to feel loved or because you are lonely, make the decision when you know it has a bright end of culminating into marriage. Discipline is paramount.

5) Have a covering /mentor / someone you both are accountable to: Get someone who you admire their successful life in relationships/marriage to be accountable to. It will help you deal with so may loopholes.


6) Just because people are into it doesn't make it right: In the course of the week, I got a response from an anonymous saying how everyone around her doesn't see anything wrong in sleeping with their boyfriends steadily, well I do understand that it's a norm in this age but it doesn't change the truth and  that there is a way that seems right to a man, but at the end of the day leads to destruction. Sex wasn't made for outside the Marriage bed but then when one indulges into it they open themselves into an array of unfortunate happenings. Let your conviction keep you in other to enjoy sanity in life.

7) Body isn't firewood so: We have been wired in such a way as to enjoy sexual intimacy no doubt, so what do you do when you have the urge to want to have sex? Engage in masturbation which tends to seem like a better option? Absolutely not. For masturbation only make the matter worse. For sure, a lot of people will rather go with what the flesh craves for but a man of understanding will make it a point of duty to discipline his flesh, make it subject to his sense of reasoning till when the time is ripe for he knows that delaying gratification only increases the reward of pleasure.

8) Run away from wolves in sheep clothing : You might have wondered how did Hilda get to be in a relationship with a so called Christian brother who had condoms readily in his apartment? The sad truth is many claim to put on a façade that they are holy ghost filled believers yet, live lives of an unbeliever.  Once a brother doesn't see any thing wrong in sex before marriage, flee! Don't even bother to look twice. He's not of the sheep clan.

I do hope that these points or lessons I elaborated on has helped you in a way. I'd like to hear from you as well perhaps you might have some lessons to the Hildas out there.

Your Love Coach, 
@thelovejunkie